Being there for people

There is nothing worse than feeling alone. It doesn’t matter what you are experiencing, whether it is good or bad, happy or sad. Everyone needs someone they can share things with. Without even realising it, you could be that someone to a friend or family member. Maybe even a co-worker. So I think it is really important that if someone is telling you something, just listen. Be kind and be there for them. And more importantly, please remember that something that seems little to you may be a big deal to the person who is upset so be there for them without judgement. One day you may need that in return. 

We never truly know what it going on in people’s lives so if it seems someone is being a bit more blunt than usual, irritated or generally not themself, try and talk to them. You could be the only person who shows any interest and it could make a huge difference to them. Just one person showing that they care could be the difference between a person beginning to open up and feel better and a person feeling no one is there for them and falling into depression. Loneliness can even go as extreme as to lead to people feeling noone cares about them and they need to take their own life and no one should ever get to that point. 

I have had a couple of experiences with this quite recently, where friends of mine have had things going on that I had no idea about until they realised I was happy to listen to them and work through their problems with them. Once they started to open up to me I realised how close to ending it all they were and it broke my heart each time. To find out people I cared about felt that low and I was unaware of it was awful. It showed me the importance of being there for people and showing them that they always have someone they can turn to, as my blog here states, I am always happy to help and I will always show the people around me that I am including all of them in that. I found out in all of these situations what was going on just by sending texts that started with things like “hey, how are you?” And then persisting when it seemed something was wrong. When was the last time you reached out to people and found out how they are doing and what is going on in their lives? For some people they just need to know that someone has thought of them and has shown an interest in them. 

Please take that into consideration when talking to friends and family. Text someone you haven’t heard from in a while, don’t dismiss someone who is being distant and find out why someone is being snappy and rude when they aren’t usually. They may have things going on in their life that they need support with but don’t know how to ask for help. 

And if you are someone who feels they have noone to talk to, there is ALWAYS someone out there who is willing to listen, whether it is a friend, family member, co-worker or a specialised hotline full of people. There is always someone you can turn to, you just need to find the courage to reach out to them. Even if you feel noone can help your situation, just talking about it with someone can relieve some of the pressure you are feeling and they may be able to come up with solutions you never thought of. 

As always please feel free to leave a comment if you have been affected by anything mentioned and I will respond as quick as possible. 

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Foundation review after seeing Nikkia Joy videos…

Oh my goodness, I never thought I would be brave enough to actually buy a high end foundation but I have heard Nikkia Joy (one of my absolute favourite YouTubers) rave about this so much that I gave in and decided to try it myself. I am of course talking about the Estee Lauder Double Wear foundation and wow is it amazing!!!

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I am in the UK and buy the majority of my make up from the store Boots, and so this 30ml bottle cost me £32.50! This would usually be far too expensive for me to even consider but I am so glad I did because it works so well and I honestly do believe it is worth the money.

I have oily skin but I have now found a skincare routine that works so well for me that I rarely have any issues such as spots or blemishes so I like the fact I only need a small amount of this product as I don’t need a full coverage foundation, however if you need something that is going to cover up things like that, this foundation can definitely be built up without looking cakey.

One of the main things I love about it, is that it comes in 50 different shades! Which means everyone is pretty much guaranteed to be able to find one that is perfect for them. However, as it is so expensive, I definitely recommend going to an Estee Lauder counter and having a colour match done just to make sure you definitely buy the right one.

As soon as I apply it to my skin it feels soft, it is really easy to blend (I use the Real Techniques Expert Face Brush) and it leaves my skin looking absolutely flawless. I also find that it completely gets rid of any shine that my lovely oily skin likes to give me and stays like the for the entire day, which is exactly what I need as I am far too lazy to be touching up my make up throughout the day. 

The only negative I have about this is the actual bottle itself. It is in a stunning frosted glass style bottle which looks incredible, but as it has no pump or other form of applicator, it is a bit of a nightmare to actually get out of the bottle. The only thing I have found that works is to carefully pour a small amount to the back of my hand and use my finge

r to wipe any excess that is on the rim of the bottle and apply that to my face as well (for £32.50 there is no way I am wasting even a drop of this stuff!)

Overall though, this is definitely a foundation that I would highly recommend, even if it is just used for special occasions in order to make the bottle last longer and prevent having to spend out on it too often.

Thank you so much to Nikkia Joy for putting it in so many videos which is what convinced me to look into it in the first place.

As always thank you for reading and
please leave a comment if you have tried this product yourself and let me know what you thought of it. Also let me know of any foundations you have tried and think are worth me testing out on my oily skin as well 🙂

Drugstore/affordable make up and skin care recommendations

I am going to apologise in advance for the long post but I wanted to share with all of you my favourite skincare and make up products that I have been loving lately.

I could keep it brief and just list them, but I would like to explain why I like each product and let you know how much they cost me, so that you know straight away how much money you are looking at spending if you are interested in any of them for yourself, or someone you know.

All prices will be from the UK store, Boots because that is pretty much the only place I buy make up from at the minute.

Also, just so that you all know, I have oily skin and so these are all the products that I feel work well with my skin type.

I think the easiest way to do them would be to mention them in the order I would use them, so here we go…

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For me, the best way to remove my make up is by using the Simple Cleansing Facial Wipes. This is because they are so gentle on the skin and they remove even waterproof make up, without leaving my face feeling dry or sore (even when I have to really scrub at my eyes to get off long wearing eye liner or mascara). I also use these in the morning before my toning cleanser (which I will talk about next) to really ensure my skin is completely clean. £3.29 20170721_194414-e1500667090769.jpg

Next I use my Simple Kind To Skin Pore Minimising Toning Cleanser. Oh my god, as soon as I have put some of this on a cotton pad and wiped it over my face, my skin feels amazing! For me it does exactly what it says on the bottle and I would highly recommend to anyone with an oily skin type. £5.27

20170721_194443.jpgOccasionally I will also use this Simple Kind To Skin Hydrating Cleansing Oil in the evening. It says on the bottle it can be done daily but I prefer to use it only 2-3 times a week. I know a few of you will think I am crazy for putting more oil on my already oily skin, but it is a little known fact that the drier oily skin becomes, the more oil it produces in order to make up for it. So for all of you other oily skin types, if you keep your skin hydrated, it will actually feel the need to produce less oil. I also love the fact you only use 2-3 drops so I’m pretty sure this bottle will last me forever, especially since I have been using it for over a month and it looks no different to when I bought it, the level doesn’t seem to have dropped at all. £6.99

20170721_194544.jpgMoving on to make up, the L’Oreal Paris Infallible 24H Matte foundation is amazing. I am able to put this on in the morning and it will last me a good 10 hours with no touch ups, if not more (except my nose, for some reason everything rubs off of that no matter what I have tried so far). It is also amazing at keeping the shine off of my oily face (again, except my nose). £8.99

20170721_194627.jpgFor my blush I am in love with this one I purchased from No7 in the shade Peach Velvet. It is extremely pigmented and so a little goes a long way, meaning that this is another product which doesn’t seem to be going down even though I have been using it for 2 months now. £9

 

20170721_194656Before applying my eyeshadow I have been putting on the Magnif’eyes eye primer by Rimmel and my goodness it is brilliant. My eyeshadows are so much more pigmented and last me all day whereas without it the colours are a lot less noticeable and start to rub off after 4-5 hours. £4.99

20170721_194714.jpgFor my lips I have been testing out a few liquid lipsticks (as these are the only lip products I like) and no matter what I have bought, I can’t find anything that compares to the MaxFactor Lipfinity liquid lipsticks. They last all day without transferring, no matter how much I eat, drink or kiss my husband. They dry completely, but because the black stick is a gloss that makes the colour last longer, it makes it so light and comfortable on the lips. £10.99

I have a lot more make up that I use but these are my all time favourites. I know that not everyone will agree with the things I have put, but these are just my personal opinions based on my experiences with each product.

I hope you find this helpful and see some products you would like to try yourself. Please leave a comment if you have tried and liked any of these yourself or even if you know of any items you think I should try as I am always looking for new products to test out.

Best way I’ve found to lose weight

My weight is something that I am always obsessing about. I’m not overweight but I’m also not comfortable in myself and so I am always trying new ways to lose weight and if I’m honest, whether they work or not, I’m not great at sticking with them so I have been in a cycle of losing weight and gaining it again for years. However, I have found one thing that I always come back to.

I’m not suggesting people of any particular size need to lose weight. Everyone is beautiful no matter what size they are. However if any of you are feeling a bit uncomfortable and would like to lose a little weight, there is one way I have found that always works for me. Walking! I know everyone goes on and on about walking to lose weight but honestly, it is one of the best things to do as it is not only effective but available to people of any money situation as it is FREE.

It is also something that is super easy to incorporate into your day. If you drive, park slightly further away to your destination than usual, if you get the bus,  get off a stop or 2 early, use stairs instead of escalators and lifts and many, many more.

Personally I have been walking to the local town centre instead of getting the bus, which is a 20 minute, uphill walk. I have also tried getting off the bus before work a few stops early and walking to my mum’s house after work, which takes me around 1 hour.

Another tip is no matter how much they hype the products or say they are good for weight loss, completely avoid anything that says it is low fat! These products are usually higher in sugar and can actually make it harder to lose weight. And high levels of sugar is worse for you and harder to burn off than the fat. Of course I am talking about the good fats, such as some oils, nuts and fish. You still need to avoid the bad fats like what you find in a lot of take aways and fast foods.

I hope you find this random post helpful, but please, please, please remember that you do not need to look a specific way to please friends, family or society in general, no matter what the media and social media say. The only thing that means anything is how YOU feel. It doesn’t matter if you are a size 0 or 20+, if you are happy that is all that matters. These little tips are just for those who are uncomfortable within themselves and need an easy and healthy way to lose weight. For me personally I am a 27 year old female, 5’9″ and a UK size 14 and I would only like to go down to a UK size 12.

My final tip if you are trying to lose weight is avoid the scales!! I am guilty of weighing myself most mornings and feeling disheartened when I haven’t lost anything, even though it takes time for things to actually work. Also, muscle weighs more than fat. So if you are exercising and finding you are gaining weight, it could just be that you are building muscle without realising it and the higher number on the scale is only going to make you feel like your effort isn’t working when it is! The best thing I find is to use a measuring tape on the body parts I am focusing on so that I can see if they are getting smaller.

Thank you for taking the time to read this, please hit the like and leave a comment with anything you would like to read about and I will be happy to get back to you as soon as I am able to.

Quick and easy tip for nails

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I thought I would start off this blog with one of the quickest and most simple beauty hacks I have come across recently and that is to instantly dry your nail varnish.

I am constantly painting my nails as I love trying different colours and brands. However, there is nothing more annoying when painting your nails than having to wait about an hour for them to stop feeling sticky and tacky. Because no matter how much I think they have dried before that time, I can almost guarantee if I try to do anything I will scuff or mark the nail varnish and then have to start all over again.

So I looked up several little tips on how to avoid this and this is the only one I have found that really works for me. This is a step by step of what to do after you have already painted your nails with a base coat, 2 layers of colour and then the top coat.

  1. While your nails are still wet, place your fingertips into a bowl of icy cold water (I usually have a small breakfast size bowl with cold water and about 4-6 ice cubes)
  2. Hold your hands there for as long as you can, try for up to 30-60seconds
  3. Take your hands out and then after a few seconds put them back in and do the same again, then repeat 1 or 2 more times.
  4. When you take them out allow your fingers to air dry

Your nails should now be completely dry.

I have used this method several times and it has always worked for me. I also find that it makes my nail varnish last a little longer before it starts to peel off.

Thank you for taking the time to read this little tip, I hope you have found it helpful. Please leave a comment and/or like if you have tried this technique and would like to read more things like this in the future.

 

New to this

Hey everyone, this is the first time I have ever tried anything like this so please bare with me if I haven’t quite done everything how I am supposed to.

I decided to try and create a blog which is full of the kind of random information I look up regularly because if they are things that I would like to know then I am sure others would as well. There may also be things my friends and family have brought to my attention, which I feel others may also be wondering about.

There won’t be one particular topic I am going to talk about and so if anyone reading this has any questions or ideas about things they would like to read, please let me know and I will do my best to answer them.