There is nothing worse than feeling alone. It doesn’t matter what you are experiencing, whether it is good or bad, happy or sad. Everyone needs someone they can share things with. Without even realising it, you could be that someone to a friend or family member. Maybe even a co-worker. So I think it is really important that if someone is telling you something, just listen. Be kind and be there for them. And more importantly, please remember that something that seems little to you may be a big deal to the person who is upset so be there for them without judgement. One day you may need that in return.
We never truly know what it going on in people’s lives so if it seems someone is being a bit more blunt than usual, irritated or generally not themself, try and talk to them. You could be the only person who shows any interest and it could make a huge difference to them. Just one person showing that they care could be the difference between a person beginning to open up and feel better and a person feeling no one is there for them and falling into depression. Loneliness can even go as extreme as to lead to people feeling noone cares about them and they need to take their own life and no one should ever get to that point.
I have had a couple of experiences with this quite recently, where friends of mine have had things going on that I had no idea about until they realised I was happy to listen to them and work through their problems with them. Once they started to open up to me I realised how close to ending it all they were and it broke my heart each time. To find out people I cared about felt that low and I was unaware of it was awful. It showed me the importance of being there for people and showing them that they always have someone they can turn to, as my blog here states, I am always happy to help and I will always show the people around me that I am including all of them in that. I found out in all of these situations what was going on just by sending texts that started with things like “hey, how are you?” And then persisting when it seemed something was wrong. When was the last time you reached out to people and found out how they are doing and what is going on in their lives? For some people they just need to know that someone has thought of them and has shown an interest in them.
Please take that into consideration when talking to friends and family. Text someone you haven’t heard from in a while, don’t dismiss someone who is being distant and find out why someone is being snappy and rude when they aren’t usually. They may have things going on in their life that they need support with but don’t know how to ask for help.
And if you are someone who feels they have noone to talk to, there is ALWAYS someone out there who is willing to listen, whether it is a friend, family member, co-worker or a specialised hotline full of people. There is always someone you can turn to, you just need to find the courage to reach out to them. Even if you feel noone can help your situation, just talking about it with someone can relieve some of the pressure you are feeling and they may be able to come up with solutions you never thought of.
As always please feel free to leave a comment if you have been affected by anything mentioned and I will respond as quick as possible.